Meeting an Internet Lover
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Dare I say it happened to me? It was a long time ago but I remember it like it was yesterday. We had been flirting online for weeks and had progressed to phone conversations. I thought he had a great voice and he said he was turned on by mine. Who wouldn’t have been flattered by that? I thought he was perfect for me and couldn’t wait til we had an opportunity to meet. We’d meet online to chat and we’d talk on the phone and soon the phone bills were more than a plane ticket. Could someone, anyone, be perfect for me? I had to know.
My grown children were shocked. I was NOT to meet this man.
“He could be an axe murderer,” said my daughter.
“He could be a jerk,” said my son.
They both were worried for my safety and all I could think of was what if he WAS perfect for me. Did I want to go through my entire life wondering if I’d missed out on the good one? I’d already had a bad one and didn’t want another one like that.
We made plans to meet but all we promised each other was that we would each have a good time. No other promises were made. I think many people meeting through the net make a big mistake by promising love or sex or anything in particular. What if you don’t like them? You might feel obligated to have sex with someone you have no desire for – no thanks. I knew we’d have a good time because we enjoyed each other’s company online and on the phone so in person couldn’t be too bad.
I made the journey and he was waiting for me with a bouquet of roses and when he saw me he threw them on the floor and put his arms around me and kissed me. How cool was that? He did pick up the flowers and give them to me after the kiss. He was exactly like he’d been on the net. He was intelligent, fun, sexy, friendly, honest, witty and did I say sexy?
We got to his place and in his great concern for my exhaustion from the travel, he suggested that I take a shower and lie down.
“Nothing will happen, you just need some rest.”
Uh huh. I took the shower and went to lie down and we got up after we’d had sex SEVEN times.
It’s been more than 13 years since we met and he’s still perfect for me.
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That is SO much like my experience with my current boyfriend. We’ve been together for 9 months and I wouldn’t change a thing. People who think you need to live next door to find love and limiting themselves.
I think it still have a ways to go before internet dating become widely accepted by the majority. Meeting someone online still is a hard thing to be accepted by some people. True there are a lot of success stories out there but they are tainted by the bad apples.
Just my 2 cents.
Wow, I conversed with my DH on the internet for 4 months and on the phone also the last two, finally after chickening out for all the same reasons your kids stated I met him for lunch, then as soon as I saw him I knew-his gorgeous blue eyes just blew me away. We went for a long motorcycle ride that night and my family and son who was 14 at the time thought I lost my mind!
We never parted and have been married almost 6 yr.s, it hasn’t all been wine and roses but he’s a damn good man & loves the hell out of me :0)
Congrats to you & your love, it pays to be brave!
-Sara
The world needs more stories like this. So much of modern culture is of hearts torn asunder. Maybe the exquisite suffering of it all provokes louder, more eloquent urges to express than those too busy being happy to write it all down.
Terrified……….but curious
It’s no secret that I met my husband online. 13 years ago, you were the early bird! Axe murderers didn’t know how to use the Internet back in 1994, or did they?
I am SO glad to see a positive relationship come from something like this. Glad to know I’m not the only one. Mind you, mine went down a little differently. We started talking as friends while I was trying to rid myself of my loser of an abusive husband, and after that happened, and months of talking about everything that flitted through our heads, (and I mean everything.. We still to this day lay bets on things like how many points were on the original Batman logo, or who will run out of sexual steam first) we decided it was time. Knowing eachother the way we did, we decided to break the ice in an original way. I had a close friend pick him up from the airport and let him in. Should we not be a match made in heaven, we knew we’d come out of this the best of friends. He came in, showered, and lay down in my bed with me.. Windows were blacked out, so we couldn’t see eachother and be worried about the thoughts of insecurity that come with first meetings. I literally woke up in his arms in the dark. I know a lot of people would bawk at doing this. “OMG, you let a total stranger in your house while you slept and told him to just crawl in bed with you??!” Potential for disaster, I agree, but going on instinct, it felt right. So, as I snuggled in against this voice I’d heard a million times or more, not really saying much, just getting to feel the warmth and love and excitement of the moment, knowing I was probably crazy for it, my hands started to wander, and that lead to the best sex of my life.. Until that point, anyways.. We’ve since nearly perfected the act, I believe.. As completely backwards as it seems, and knowing I’d never recommend anyone try this at home, it really broke the ice.. I wasn’t worried if he thought I was as beautiful as he had via pictures and cam chats..Stretch marks don’t mean much in the dark.. Blemishes, scars, and cellulite forgotten, it was all about touch.. It was AMAZING. It took some work to motivate myself to turn on the light after, but it was less akward than anything else I had pictured.. I’m one of not so many that can say I slept with the love of my life before ever seeing him, literally.. But it was right for us… That was in 2005.. And while there have been bumps, the love is as strong as it ever was, if not stronger… He’s still the most handsome man in the world… And he still thinks I’m beautiful, even when I know I can’t possibly look any worse. I really think the process of having nothing to do but TALK brought us closer together. Meant to be or not, I don’t believe I’d have taken him seriously if this model of a man (and he IS gorgeous) approached me in a bar, or somewhere else. I don’t think I would know him as well if we had gone through a “normal” dating process. I don’t think as many secrets would have been shared, admissions made, confessions given. You go to the movies or to dinner, and you don’t really TALK. Breaking the ice and being yourself becomes hard, because you feel the need to impress, and be on your best behavior. With someone that doesn’t feel real at first, or that can’t really reject you in a way that hurts as bad, because you’ve never even met them, gives a feeling that being exactly who you want to be, (yourself hopefully) isn’t so hard. And really, being on your best behavior to make a good first impression is great, but watching someone fall out of their chair and make an ass of themselves because they are laughing so hard at something ridiculous brings you so much closer. Who cares if you shot some milk out your nose, or did something equally embarrassing. If they can love that you, then you know you found the lover you can tell all your secret desires to, and the best friend that knows just how to make you laugh when things aren’t so good. God Bless The Internet. It saved me from a long life without him. And should he stumble upon this the way I did, (because he introduced me to stumbleupon) I hope he knows that no matter what happens from here, I love him for being the stranger in my bed.
Someone, somewhere, will have a very similar experience to yours, except for the end part, which will probably (given the ratio of men online in chat rooms vs. crazy men online in chat rooms) end horrifically. You will be blamed. And life will go on.
I met my husband of 2 weeks on Myspace, we had sex the first time we met. I didn’t regret it then and I don’t now!! I am still as much in love with him now as I was that very first day. That was almost 2 yrs ago.
i have been married to my online love for a little more than a year. i met him a couple months after we started talking with platonic intentions (for the first 2 hrs) haha we made out all night and here we are now.
I’ve been with my “interwebs” lover for 7 years now. We have two children and are extremely happy. I think meeting this way skips the silly games of getting to know someone – when all you have is each other’s mind and words and voice, you realise that these are what makes relationships work, these are the important things. Brava to you!
…agrees with Plaidjacket. Psychologists have produced research suggesting relationships grow strongest when partners are physically close, but a significant portion of the population has found love in the world of ascii characters and voice samples.
I think the internet is a great way to start relationships, because (among other things) it’s relatively safe, there’s no pressure of physical interaction, and it’s easy to block relationships that turn sour. Yay for starting new traditions
This cannot be true, in my view and thinking.
So much exaggerratred, for God knows why! what I find are 2 anomalies. 1. discussing such things with your own children. (We abhor such things in our culture) 2. No of times is so exaggerated. What was that? chicken play or actual sex to have that number? cant understand. Any way this will not have any effect on the readers for the anxiety u have anticipated. But really great if it can be true.. congratulations for that number. You are a great connosieur. cheers… kunjubi
In our fast online world, internet lovers are so natural and many families are even founded that way.
In the old days we were taught that the US was the center of the universe and for much of my young life, it was
I met the most amazing guy on facebook, we have been flirting since our first message (nearly 7 or 8 months now) and we are both equally magnetically attracted to one another. He has a humble personality, yet strong and he is oh so sexy for me i even told him but there are plenty of other sexy ladies out there, but he says there is only one Merle for him. The things that he says amazes me. I light up when i get a msg from him and I feel like we are made for each other.
It’s wonderful stories like this that give me hope. I just met someone online, and I’ve been wondering about meeting him. Yea, for you guys!
Thats really very good for you…you have found the person you were searching for your life…and its better he is still with you in the same relationship…I am searching for same type of girl for my life…but no luck so far..:(
I have been chatting with my ex-boyfriend on the internet for one year….I am married, he is not, but he does respect my marriage. We do talk about the good memories we share is that bad?
Great story. I love it.
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This reminds me of me and my husband. We met for the first time and were so scared, and so awkward after being online for four years. But we knew we loved each other. Our sex didn’t go so well though, I ended up getting sick from the ravioli I ate at dinner and had to have him stop so I could go throw up and went to sleep.
im not happy in the relationship im in right now. i only need some one who will love and respect me.
i need a lover
can i get someone who will love and trust me?
wow! cool!
to a beautiful gal from USA and UK